‘Being present’ is a hardship when battling difficult life circumstances. In this series, I will be introducing you to ways that help you to stay connected to your surroundings, to the people around you and your inner self. Delving deeper into why being present will enhance your life and benefit you overall.
I have mentioned before that I struggle with depression ( How to Stop the downward spiral of depression) It often brings with it the absence of connection and being present.
It is not only for those people that struggle with mental health, depression or anxiety. No, it can be all of us. Caught up in this information age. Caught up in schedules, rotas, school, work, family and never-ending to-do lists. We are losing the ability to truly live. To be present. To be happy and at peace with ourselves right where we are right now..
We’re always worrying about or planning the next “big” thing that’s coming up in our lives, never just living in the moment. Even our holidays have become like this – rarely just rest and relaxation but now more focused on chasing down the next ‘experience’. There are many cultural differences amongst different societies across the globe, with some cultures having an enviable level of ‘Living Present’ (research hygge or lagom) whereas others lengthen the working day and shorten holiday times.
Predominantly the general state of affairs in peoples’ lives is that of worry, grief, stress, anxiety, and fear. Simply put, we’re not generally happy and we don’t live in the here-and-now. We are not present.
If this strikes a chord with you then you are in the right place. Let us explore together some easy and practical ways we can stay present. It is a good idea to take stock of where we are presently and how we are living our lives.
First of all, let us work out where all of our energy is going. If you are constantly thinking of the next thing then it is not very possible to remain present.
Complete this questionnaire to see where your energy drains are so that we can work out where and how to plug the leak!
You score one point for every ‘yes’ and none for no…
Tally up your yeses and see how you have scored –
WOW! I am surprised you had time to get this far- you are one heck of a busy bee and this series is DEFINITELY for you. It is time to slow down, breathe and make time for yourself.
Hmmmm, you are juggling things quite well. But are you waking up in the morning and your first thought is your to-do list for the rest of the day/week/month? You need to be guarding those rare calm moments.
What is your secret? Or should I say “what is your story?” I’d love to hear how you are achieving this and your journey of how you got to be where you are – and so would many of us! You hold the keys that many of us are looking for.
We are living in the most connected age of all history yet stats are showing that we are the loneliest that we have ever been. We live in a world that is communicating to us all the time yet we have lost many basic communication skills. SO many of us are longing for connection but are looking for it online (via ‘social media’) when what we really need is face-to-face communication.
No screens allowed.
In which our full attention is required, even eye contact. We need to slow down enough to feel the air on our faces, the grass between our toes even the sand in our socks!
It is as if this new age of connection has connected all the wrong bits. The faster bits. The busy bits. The doing doing doing bits. Forgetting that all of it is only worthwhile if we are present for it.
We can start as soon as the alarm goes off in the morning.
If our alarm is on our phone we turn it off, put the phone down and roll over and kiss our partner. Or we get out of bed and go snuggle our kids. Or if not any of that we get out of bed and greet ourselves in the mirror. How is that for being present? Actually acknowledging others and ourselves before our digital universe. At the time of writing (and just a google click away) there are a series of photographs of families looking at empty hands where phones usually are. It is visually haunting and cuts deep into the current social crisis of not being present in real life. It harrowingly highlights the lack of contact we have with our nearest and dearest. Our disconnect with our very own lives.
Not only are we too busy to connect with our present we are too distracted as well!
Something that I read recently has really stuck with me – if we don’t put our devices down when people enter a room and treat our family and friends like they are the most important people in the room then we are sending a clear message through our actions that they are secondary to our devices.
I know, I know. I can hear protests even now. There is a time and a place for devices.
Not all the time in all the places.
So, if we really do want to be present in the here-and-now, we ultimately have to achieve some level of contentment. Enough to satisfy that seemingly insatiable drive within us to continue our busy-ness. That being said, how is that we can simply just be happy, be present, and enjoy life for what it is?
I believe that you can live in the present moment if you daily apply these 5 simple steps, making them into a habit for the rest of your life.
Think it sounds too simple? It is that simple and you’ll be so thankful that you did it 🙂
Now, do it every single day.
Make it a habit.
You’ll be so happy you did.